You guys don't feel shy about this topic, let's get your feelings out in the open. I was once a teen and I can totally relate to whatever you have to say.
I remember in high school, I knew almost everyone was doing it or claiming that they were doing it. I often wondered if I should do it. Believe it or not you guys, I was 21 years of age when I lost my virginity. My friends thought that I would be wild when I left for college because I wasn't in a hurry to grow up. Virginity is very precious. A close friend of mines got pregnant at the age of 16 and I saw the things that she went through when she gave birth. She hardly ever slept and couldn't totally focus on studying. She almost didn't graduate from high school but she made it. Her baby father wasn't very active in the baby's life and she had to handle a lot of things on her own. She felt alone and her mother was working a full time job and she couldn't help her much to take care of the baby.
You guys, I'm not going say not to have sex because ultimately you would make that decision on your own. Just last week my mother was telling me how she was worried about my little brother having sex. I replied to her that worrying isnt going to change anything and all she could do is just tell him to protect himself by using condoms. It's to many diseases that's going around and some diseases could kill you if you aren't safe. Just because your girlfriend or boyfriend don't want to use protection or they may say that they don't have anything, you still should protect yourself. Some sexually transmitted diseases aren't treatable.
Also, if you think you are mature enough to engage in sex as a teen, make sure you know of the responsibilities of taking care of your baby. Babies need to be feed, pamper changed, put to sleep, etc. Some times you may have to wake up in the middle of the night. Just be aware of the consequences of getting pregnant.
If you want to learn more about sexually transmited diseases click on the link below. It is important to educate yourself.
http://www.epigee.org/guide/stds.html
If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I'm not here to judge you, I'm here to help you all. Be safe!
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Unhappily ever after
This post is for the ones that feel as if they are unworthy of being loved. They are surrounded by great people and they still decides to choose the opposite route. This is the guide to being unhappy and you should avoid these things.
Trying to be perfect----No one is perfect. Trying to be perffect would only drive you crazy. Not tolerating mistakes from yourself or others would on lead to unhappiness because being perfect isn't possible. Everyone makes mistakes
Stay in your comfort zone- I thought that in life you are suppose to grow and learn. Well tell me how you expect to grow if you stay in your comfort zone. You are suppose to be willing to take chances because that is how you grow as a person. Stop being afraid and chicken out about everything. You would get absolutely no where by doing this. The booik to the left is a great book to read about stepping outside of your bubble.
Don't be youself---Why would you waste your valuable time comparing youself to others?? We are all made to be different, to be unique. Don't think that the grass is always greener on the other side because it's not. Learn to use your own unique qualities to your own advantage. Appreciate the qualities that God has instilled in you. Be happy with the person you are!! Trying to be someone else would only lead to continuous unhappiness. Also, the book learning to love youself is great readings for you.
When feeling overwhelmed, push away------Accomplishing any goal isn't easy. You have to work towards it. In the long run, it would surely pay off. If you feel overwhelmed and push away, you are giving up because things are getting harder. You have to push forward and believe in yourself and your abilities.
Well, I hope this helped you guys and if you have any comment, like always feel free!! :-) I'm here for you!!
Trying to be perfect----No one is perfect. Trying to be perffect would only drive you crazy. Not tolerating mistakes from yourself or others would on lead to unhappiness because being perfect isn't possible. Everyone makes mistakes
Stay in your comfort zone- I thought that in life you are suppose to grow and learn. Well tell me how you expect to grow if you stay in your comfort zone. You are suppose to be willing to take chances because that is how you grow as a person. Stop being afraid and chicken out about everything. You would get absolutely no where by doing this. The booik to the left is a great book to read about stepping outside of your bubble.
Don't be youself---Why would you waste your valuable time comparing youself to others?? We are all made to be different, to be unique. Don't think that the grass is always greener on the other side because it's not. Learn to use your own unique qualities to your own advantage. Appreciate the qualities that God has instilled in you. Be happy with the person you are!! Trying to be someone else would only lead to continuous unhappiness. Also, the book learning to love youself is great readings for you.
When feeling overwhelmed, push away------Accomplishing any goal isn't easy. You have to work towards it. In the long run, it would surely pay off. If you feel overwhelmed and push away, you are giving up because things are getting harder. You have to push forward and believe in yourself and your abilities.
Well, I hope this helped you guys and if you have any comment, like always feel free!! :-) I'm here for you!!
Teen Drug Use
I remember in high school when it was drug free month we had to wear the DRUG FREE signs on our shirts that read "Drug free is the way to be"
Some teens don't understand the affects of drug use and how it could ruin your future. In high school, I knew people that was doing it and some of my friends even tried it. A lot of people I knew back in high school or drug addicts. They never did anything with their life. I have a friend of mines that told me that he used drugs in high school but he stopped after his best friend got into a tragic accident that killed him. Sometimes you could lose someone close to you that could change your life.
Some teens do drug because they think it's fun, their friends are doing it, they are stressed and they want it to relax them. They never relized the effects of it all.
Here are some of the effects of teen drug use:
Slower development of the brain and body, meaning that teens who use drugs are likely to have smaller brains and to be shorter.
Loss of short-term memory and ability to learn
Underdeveloped motor skills
Lack of motivation
Impaired emotional and sexual development
Deviant behavior and conduct disorders
Inability to judge risks
Depression and suicidal tendencies
Eating disorders
Personality and psychiatric disorders
Damage to blood vessels in the brain, which can lead to strokes
Convulsions or seizures
Reduced brain function, which can lead to coma and death
You guys think twice before you use drugs because it could ruin your life. Your life is really just beginning and life is precious. You only have one life to live so just try to fight the peer pressure and live it the right way. Take care you guys!! :-)
Some teens don't understand the affects of drug use and how it could ruin your future. In high school, I knew people that was doing it and some of my friends even tried it. A lot of people I knew back in high school or drug addicts. They never did anything with their life. I have a friend of mines that told me that he used drugs in high school but he stopped after his best friend got into a tragic accident that killed him. Sometimes you could lose someone close to you that could change your life.
Some teens do drug because they think it's fun, their friends are doing it, they are stressed and they want it to relax them. They never relized the effects of it all.
Here are some of the effects of teen drug use:
Slower development of the brain and body, meaning that teens who use drugs are likely to have smaller brains and to be shorter.
Loss of short-term memory and ability to learn
Underdeveloped motor skills
Lack of motivation
Impaired emotional and sexual development
Deviant behavior and conduct disorders
Inability to judge risks
Depression and suicidal tendencies
Eating disorders
Personality and psychiatric disorders
Damage to blood vessels in the brain, which can lead to strokes
Convulsions or seizures
Reduced brain function, which can lead to coma and death
You guys think twice before you use drugs because it could ruin your life. Your life is really just beginning and life is precious. You only have one life to live so just try to fight the peer pressure and live it the right way. Take care you guys!! :-)
Dos and Don'ts on a date
Now i'm about to talk about a couple of does and donts on dates:
Dos
Have Fun
Even though you are nervous it is important to shake your fear and have some fun. If you focus on having fun and enjoying spending time with your date, it will go well.
Make Eye Contact
This is relevant to making sure your date goes great. Making eye contact shows that you are interested in what they are saying. Don't look at your feet try not to be shy.
Do Give Compliments
Both boys and girls respond well to compliments and it lets them know that you really appreciates them.
Laugh at Jokes
Laughter makes you get more comfortable. Even if the joke isn't funny, at least giggle and smile. Don't forcew out an awkward loud laugh.
Don'ts
Don't Talk on the Phone
This a big no no. If you think you would be tempted to answer the phone, leave it at home or just put it on vibrate.
Don't Be Late
There is nothing more annoying then leaving your date hanging not knowing if you are standing him/her up or not. If you are running late, then be a decent person and call your date to let him/her know.
Don't Leave Him/Her Hangin'
If you like your date and want to see him/her again let them know. When the date comes to an end, you both are unsure about what's next, so take charge and tell him/her that you would like to get together again.
I hope this helped you guys and feel free to leave comments!
Dos
Have Fun
Even though you are nervous it is important to shake your fear and have some fun. If you focus on having fun and enjoying spending time with your date, it will go well.
Make Eye Contact
This is relevant to making sure your date goes great. Making eye contact shows that you are interested in what they are saying. Don't look at your feet try not to be shy.
Do Give Compliments
Both boys and girls respond well to compliments and it lets them know that you really appreciates them.
Laugh at Jokes
Laughter makes you get more comfortable. Even if the joke isn't funny, at least giggle and smile. Don't forcew out an awkward loud laugh.
Don'ts
Don't Talk on the Phone
This a big no no. If you think you would be tempted to answer the phone, leave it at home or just put it on vibrate.
Don't Be Late
There is nothing more annoying then leaving your date hanging not knowing if you are standing him/her up or not. If you are running late, then be a decent person and call your date to let him/her know.
Don't Leave Him/Her Hangin'
If you like your date and want to see him/her again let them know. When the date comes to an end, you both are unsure about what's next, so take charge and tell him/her that you would like to get together again.
I hope this helped you guys and feel free to leave comments!
Perfect Kiss and when to know it's time!!
You like this person, don't you? :-) Awwww.......You wouldn't be reading this post if you didn't. (Stop blushing)
Lol......The question is when to know if it's the right time and the signs to look for.
1. Noticing the signs--Never go in for an ambush kiss which means to never go in to quickly for a kiss. Pay attention to the signs. Look into your partner eyes, this would let them know that you want to get closer to them. That's the message you are sending. By doing this, you should be also receiving a message from them. A smile is a good sign. That means green light, GO FOR IT!! If your partner looks away or backs a way, that's a red light which means that it's not the right time or this person isn't interested.
2. Physical touch---move closer to your partner and get your body in a comfortable position. Slightly touch your partner face or hold their hand. Make sure you don 't lose eye contact. Tilt your head slightly to the side and usually your partner would tilt to the other side.
3. Relax and inhale--Relax your lips, close your eyes, and move in slowly. Don't have your lips to tightly pressed together. Your partner need to feel your lips softly on theirs.
4. Lips meet---Just before your lips connect, slightly part your lips and keep them relaxed. Remember to keep your head tilted slightly so you both could properly breathe through your nose.
5. Enjoy it----keep it sweet, not slobby, not to long and lot to short. Keep it just right.
I hope this article help you guys and if you have any questions or comments feel free to ask and I would respond as quickly as possible. :-)
Lol......The question is when to know if it's the right time and the signs to look for.
1. Noticing the signs--Never go in for an ambush kiss which means to never go in to quickly for a kiss. Pay attention to the signs. Look into your partner eyes, this would let them know that you want to get closer to them. That's the message you are sending. By doing this, you should be also receiving a message from them. A smile is a good sign. That means green light, GO FOR IT!! If your partner looks away or backs a way, that's a red light which means that it's not the right time or this person isn't interested.
2. Physical touch---move closer to your partner and get your body in a comfortable position. Slightly touch your partner face or hold their hand. Make sure you don 't lose eye contact. Tilt your head slightly to the side and usually your partner would tilt to the other side.
3. Relax and inhale--Relax your lips, close your eyes, and move in slowly. Don't have your lips to tightly pressed together. Your partner need to feel your lips softly on theirs.
4. Lips meet---Just before your lips connect, slightly part your lips and keep them relaxed. Remember to keep your head tilted slightly so you both could properly breathe through your nose.
5. Enjoy it----keep it sweet, not slobby, not to long and lot to short. Keep it just right.
I hope this article help you guys and if you have any questions or comments feel free to ask and I would respond as quickly as possible. :-)
Could it be Love?
Sometimes as a teen, you may think that you are in love but sometimes it is really lust. Lust could be a very strong physical attractive to a person and we sometimes mistake it as love. It was many times when I thought I was in love when I was 16 years old but I was just attracted to a guy. I remember in high school when I like this guy that played basketball so good and he was so cute and I thought I was in love. In reality, I wasn't and he was a jerk. I just tried to ignore the negative things about him because I was so physically attracted to him.
Lol, anyway I've learned from that mistake.
Love is based more on than just a physical attraction. Of course physical atttaction is included in being in love but it goes more deeper. Being in love is included with commitment, trust, honesty, friendship, and caring. Love should make you want to be a better person and not do anything that is self-destructive. Love is a great feeling.
1. You know because you have been told by your special person that they feel the same. The feelings are mutual.
2.The person makes you feel good about yourself like you could accomplish anything.
3.You are confident in yourself and in your relationship that you trust them and are not jealous.
4. When you are with the person, you feel a great inside and nothing else matters.
5.When you and your partner have disagreements and argues, you make up within a few hours and agree that there's no one else that you rather be with and you should continue to be open with one another.
6. .You are totally comfortable with he or she than you are with any other person.
7. When you wake up in the morning, you thank God for waking you up and for blessing you with a special person to spend your life with. .
Lol, anyway I've learned from that mistake.
Love is based more on than just a physical attraction. Of course physical atttaction is included in being in love but it goes more deeper. Being in love is included with commitment, trust, honesty, friendship, and caring. Love should make you want to be a better person and not do anything that is self-destructive. Love is a great feeling.
1. You know because you have been told by your special person that they feel the same. The feelings are mutual.
2.The person makes you feel good about yourself like you could accomplish anything.
3.You are confident in yourself and in your relationship that you trust them and are not jealous.
4. When you are with the person, you feel a great inside and nothing else matters.
5.When you and your partner have disagreements and argues, you make up within a few hours and agree that there's no one else that you rather be with and you should continue to be open with one another.
6. .You are totally comfortable with he or she than you are with any other person.
7. When you wake up in the morning, you thank God for waking you up and for blessing you with a special person to spend your life with. .
Body Image
The media definition of a perfect body image has affected the way our teens see themselves. They always have very skinny models that doesn't look like the average women. It makes teens think that they have to be very skinny to be beautiful and sometimes teens try to fit that body image and becomes ill. You also need to know that no one body is perfect and in magazines most photos are airbrushed so that means that you can't see their imperfections.
If you are overweight or underweight, it is very important to get on track to be the right weigh for your height. To find out more information about the correct weight for your height, click below
http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm
No matter what always believe that you are beautiful and no one is perfect. Exercise and eat the right food if you are overweight in order to lose weight. Eat more healthier food if you are underweight. It's that simple. Always be confident in yourself also.
Learn more about the health risks that could take place of you are too thin and underweight.
~ anemia and nutrient deficiencies
~ bone loss and oserporosis
~ heart irregularities and blood vessel diseases
~ amenorrhea (irregular periods/ loss of periods)
~ increased vunerablility to infection and disease
~ delayed wound healing
Learn health risks that occur when being overweight
-type 2 diabetes
-coronary heart disease and stroke
-metabolic syndrome
-certain types of cancer
-sleep apnea
-osteoarthritis
-gallbladder disease
-fatty liver disease
-pregnancy complications
As you can see being underweight or overweight both have similar health risks. This is so because they both are unhealthy for the body.
I hope this help you guys and please feel free to leave comments because this affects a lot of teens today and I really want to help :-) Take care of yourself.
If you are overweight or underweight, it is very important to get on track to be the right weigh for your height. To find out more information about the correct weight for your height, click below
http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm
No matter what always believe that you are beautiful and no one is perfect. Exercise and eat the right food if you are overweight in order to lose weight. Eat more healthier food if you are underweight. It's that simple. Always be confident in yourself also.
Learn more about the health risks that could take place of you are too thin and underweight.
~ anemia and nutrient deficiencies
~ bone loss and oserporosis
~ heart irregularities and blood vessel diseases
~ amenorrhea (irregular periods/ loss of periods)
~ increased vunerablility to infection and disease
~ delayed wound healing
Learn health risks that occur when being overweight
-type 2 diabetes
-coronary heart disease and stroke
-metabolic syndrome
-certain types of cancer
-sleep apnea
-osteoarthritis
-gallbladder disease
-fatty liver disease
-pregnancy complications
As you can see being underweight or overweight both have similar health risks. This is so because they both are unhealthy for the body.
I hope this help you guys and please feel free to leave comments because this affects a lot of teens today and I really want to help :-) Take care of yourself.
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